Sydney Meditation Coach Sydney Meditation Learn to Meditate in Sydney Thu, 14 Sep 2017 09:45:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 How Meditation Takes You into Frequencies and How They Heal Mon, 16 Jan 2017 02:14:12 +0000

What happens when we meditate?

The Dalai Lama has been quoted as saying that the best meditation is sleep.  So why is this?

What happens in meditation is we consciously enter the same brainwave frequencies as when we go off to sleep, but the practice accelerates our healing among many other things.

When we enter a different focus of awareness (those who are too linear call them altered states), and expand into that awareness we can heal and manifest easily and effortlessly. When we let go into the void, which really is the collapse of the electrical signals in our brain, we enter an expanded awareness. Infinite healing, creativity and manifestations. Hence, we get the symbol for infinity.


Collapse of the Frequency    Infinity Symbol

Which brings me to my next subject… The frequency 10Hz  which is widely regarded as a frequency (or channel if you like), for health, however, it is not the only frequency for health of course.

All frequencies are imperative to human beings to live as the spectrum between 0.0001 hz and moving up through Delta, Theta, Alpha, Beta and Gamma up to 30-40Hz, and even up to 100 is natural for us.

See this chart of the electromagnetic spectrum here and see where human brainwaves are right at the bottom!

These frequencies play like a symphony and when some frequencies are too dominant (like Beta for example), or some are missing (like Alpha or Theta or Delta) for example, human form is out of balance and gets tired and sick.

For this reason, meditation restores expansion into these frequencies.

“I cannot teach anybody anything. I can only make them think”  ~Socrates

10Hz the Energy Frequency Activates ATP

After weeks of nightly stimulation, cells are so well detoxified and producing such high levels of ATP (known by the body to be associated with youthful levels), that the cells actually revert from mature to developmental DNA signature as proven by NASA*.
*Who also developed neurofeedback (a concentrated form of meditation; the direct application of brainwave frequencies) for astronauts…

All cells need energy to function. Adenosine triphosphate, created using food or sunlight, is the molecule that cells use to store that energy for future use. Adenosine triphosphate, also known as ATP, is the energy molecule of all living cells. When plants get energy from sunlight and animals get energy from food, this energy must be converted to ATP before it can be used by the cells to carry out all necessary functions.

When cells are moderately low in ATP, the major problem may be fatigue or exercise intolerance. [Think of a car engine. If the gas in the tank is good fuel, the engine runs well. If the gas has water or sand in it, the car runs poorly.] Rhabdomyolysis (muscle cell death) occurs when the cells don’t have enough ATP (that is, the car runs out of gas). Constant or on-going weakness may develop as a result of repeated low-grade rhabdomyolysis.

ATP Releases Energy to Power the Cell

Adenosine triphosphate (ATP) is a compound which provides energy for virtually all body’s processes. Its role in health maintenance, especially with regard to heart health, cannot be underestimated. Among other crucial functions, ATP is responsible for the heart’s continual cadence. The human heart contains approximately 700 mg of ATP, enough to fuel one heartbeat per second for ten seconds, and needs a minimum of 6,000 grams of ATP per day to function. As the universal cellular energy currency, ATP is constantly spent and re-made within the body.

How much ATP the body needs, as well as how efficiently it produces ATP, depends on the availability of oxygen and various nutrients in the blood, as well as the heart’s ability to continually circulate blood. Maintaining a healthy cardiovascular system through a heart-healthy lifestyle, inhaling enough oxygen, and obtaining appropriate nutrients through the diet and nutraceutical supplementation are essential means of staying energetic and maintaining wellness.

The key to the energy-generating activity of adenosine triphosphate is the chain of three phosphates at the end of the molecule. In particular, the final phosphate is the most important one.

Outside the cell, ATP can act as a signaling molecule itself. An extracellular release of ATP in different areas of the body can signal pain, oxygen depletion and other biological needs.All of these important functions are the result of the conversion of ATP into ADP, a cellular process that works 24 hours a day to keep organisms functioning and healthy. That’s why adenosine triphosphate is often considered the most important molecule in living cells.

In November 2006 the University of Lubeck sleep study disclosed that slowly oscillating Delta rhythm electric stimulation applied via surface electrodes on the scalp induced an immediate increase in spectral power at the same slow wave (Delta) frequency band, increased endogenous cortical slow oscillations, and increased slow spindle activity in the frontal cortex, resulting in improved slow wave sleep and subsequently better memory consolidation.

Our health is directly related to the integrity of our mitochondria. (2 min video here) Mitochondria, “powerhouse” organelles within all of our cells, are responsible for producing 90 percent of the body’s energy. Highly concentrated in the heart, mitochondria comprise 35 percent of myocyte, or heart, cells. While a skeletal muscle cell will only contain, on average, 200 mitochondria, a typical myocyte contains approximately 5,000 mitochondria.

Low ATP is reportedly involved in many illnesses

There are more than 50 inherited diseases of metabolism that are known to affect mitochondria. Taken together, more than 1 in 4,000 children born in the United States each year will develop a mitochondrial disease by 10 year of age. Four million children are born in the US each year. This means that 1000 to 4000 children will be born each year with mitochondrial disease. By comparison, about 8000 new cases of childhood cancer are reported each year. Both mitochondrial disease and childhood cancer range in mortality from 1O to 50 percent per year, depending on the specific disease. Leigh’s syndrome, for example, is one of the more lethal mitochondrial diseases. It has a mortality of about 50 percent per year after diagnosis.

In 1995, the entire program of the 25th annual meeting of the American Aging Association and the American College of Clinical Gerontologv was devoted to the role of mitochondria in the chronic diseases of aging. Even so, most physicians in America are not yet aware of the connection between chronic diseases and abnormalities in mitochondrial function. Fortunately, this is changing through education. But real change in medicine requires two elements- education and the availability of effective treatment. Progress will be slow until effective treatments for mitochondrial diseases are developed.

How Common is Adult Mitochondrial Disease?

Defects in mitochondrial function have now been I inked to many of the most common diseases of aging. These include Type II Diabetes Mellitus, Parkinson Disease, Atherosclerotic Heart Disease, Stroke, Alzheimer Dementia, and Cancer. Over 50 million people in the US suffer from these chronic degenerative disorders. While it cannot yet be said that mitochondria cause these problems, it is clear that mitochondria are involved because their function is measurably disturbed. Even autoimmune diseases such as Multiple Sclerosis, Systemic Lupus Erythematosus, and Rheumatoid Arthritis appear to have mitochondrial components.  Source

Oxygen infusion and ATP
“Oxygen infusion is often overlooked in regard to its role in ATP synthesis, as the amount of available oxygen is closely related to the body’s ability to maximize ATP synthesis by establishing pathways that produce high-energy phosphate bonds. Because oxygen is essential for maximum ATP synthesis, as well as other positive attributes to the health and visual appearance of the skin, oxygen infusion is a natural partner to be used with microcurrent and light-activated rejuvenation to increase the overall ATP potential and the pursuit of healthy cells and a more youthful appearance.”

  • Liver disease
  • Heart disease
  • So patients with angina, high blood pressure, heart failure, cardiomyopathy, some valve defects as well as patients with cardiac dysrhythmias also have mitochondrial problems and will respond in the same way to nutritional therapies and detox therapies The first effect of poor micro-circulation to the heart is disturbance of the electrical conductivity which causes dysrhythmias. Many patients complain of palpitations, missed heart beats etc
  • Hepatitis C
  • Metabolic myopathies
  • Fibromyalgia
  • Weight gain
  • Unexplained seizures
  • Low blood counts
  • Dystonia
  • Cancer
  • Parkinson’s Disease
  • Chronic fatigue syndrome
  • Thyroid and Adrenal Malfunction

MORE Symptoms of low ATP

  • Fatigue
  • Pain
  • alpitations
  • Depression
  • Tinnitus
  • General Low body temperature. Coldness. Low Energy or Fatigue.
  • Weight problems (can’t lose or gain it). Slow healing.
  • Brain Depression. Anxiety. Poor memory, focus, or concentration. Sleep disorders.
    Immune system Under-Reactive or Over-Reactive: Frequent infections (skin, sinus, bladder, bowel, yeast problems, etc.).
  • Allergies. Auto-immune disease.
    Musculoskeletal Fatigue. Fibromyalgia (muscle or joint pains). Generalized aches/pains. Repetitive use injury and carpal tunnel syndrome. Weak connective tissues (ligaments, bones, etc).
  • Headaches.
  • Sexual Loss of Libido and function. Menstrual disorders. Infertility.
  • Vascular Low blood pressure. High blood pressure. Raynaud’s disease.
  • Bowels Constipation. Gas or bloating. Digestive disorders, Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS)
    Nervous system Numbness of hands and/or feet (usually symmetrical). Dulling or loss of senses such as vision, taste or smell. Skin Dry. Acne. Pallor in light skin, darkening or dark patches in dark skin.
  • Hair Hair loss, brittle, coarse, dry or oily.

Serotonin is the “happiness hormone.”

“Serotonin is a monoamine neurotransmitter that is produced from an amino acid called tryptophan that is stored within the gastrointestinal track, platelets, and the central nervous system. Ninety percent of it is found in the gut regulating intestinal movements. It is associated with your moods, how well you sleep, depression, anxiety, how you view things, body temperature, energy, muscle contraction, whether your platelets clot or not, and your ability to make decisions.

Brainwave entrainment stimulates the brain using the alpha wave frequency (10 Hz) which allows for an increased release of serotonin”
… and a big P.S. … That’s were meditation takes you!

EMF can heal using PEMF ( Pulsating Electromagnetic Field Therapy)

Chronic fatigue syndrome is the symptom caused by mitochondrial failure. The job of mitochondria is to supply energy in the form of ATP (adenosine triphosphate). This is the universal currency of energy. It can be used for all sorts of biochemical jobs from muscle contraction to hormone production. When mitochondria fail, this results in poor supply of ATP, so cells go slow because they do not have the energy supply to function at a normal speed. This means that all bodily functions go slow.

In 1989 David Hood found chronic (30+ days) 10 Hz stimulation TRIPLED two critical enzymes of final stages of cell respiration, citrate synthase and cytochrome c oxidase.. Testing systemic oxygen consumption via breath-hold-test since 2005 we have found routine improvements in as little as 2-3 days. Cells burn oxygen more efficiently, drawing oxygen from blood slower, producing more energy and less waste from every breath; thus you are able to hold your breath up to 20% longer the first week or two; 2/3rds longer after a year or two and up to 100% longer after several years.

More 10hz Reported uses

10 Hz Treatment for Attention Deficit (Hyperactivity) Disorder (47)
10 Hz Treatment for closed head injury (48)
10 Hz Dominant alpha frequency, clarity, normalcy, anti-convulsant circadian rhythm resync, activate kidneys, raise body temp, more serotonin. (40)
10 Hz Berger rhythm (07)
10 Hz Enhanced release of serotonin and mood elevator, universally beneficial, use to try effects of other mixes (16)
10 Hz Acts as an analgesic, safest frequency, especially for hangover and jet lag. (11)
10 Hz For learning a foreign language fast, (18)
10 Hz In a study using 20 minute sessions of 10-Hz photic stimulation, it was found that the daytime level of melatonin decreased and increases in the levels of endorphin, serotonin and norepinephrine. Shealy’s group suggested that an increase in beta endorphins is associated with a sense of well being and decreased pain. The increase in norepinephrine and serotonin and the decrease in melatonin suggest an increase in the level of alertness. (35)
10 Hz increases in neurochemical levels: 11% increase in Norepinephrine levels, 21% increase in Serotonin levels, 25% increase in Beta-Endorphin levels

NASA Uses Frequencies to Enhance Neural Tissue

Regeneration of nerve cells using 10 hz square EM fields

In 2003 NASA-Goodwin found 10 Hz square wave stimulation caused neural tissue regeneration @ 4x baseline, w/better 3-D orientation; cell DNA signature reverted from maturation to developmental (more than 175 maturation genes and 150 developmental genes pgs. 15-18)..

Cells that are mature are literally “tricked” into believing they are younger than they are. Mitochondrial DNA (mtDNA) may have been repaired through some unidentified mechanism or to adequate detoxification of mitochondrion itself or cell protoplasm within which the mitochondria reside

In NASA study above, mitochondrial robustness due to 10 Hz stimulation provided the energy to support regeneration at 4 times baseline. There is related information in that author’s patents at US 6485963 and 6673597, both of which are titled “Growth stimulation of biological cells and tissue by electromagnetic fields and uses thereof”.


“We have clearly demonstrated the bioelectric/biochemical potentiation of nerve stimulation and restoration in humans as a documented reality”.
Final Recommendation: “One may use square wave EM fields for”:

a. repairing traumatized tissues
b. moderating some neuro-degenerative diseases
c. developing tissues for transplantation

*the first study to clarify technologies and efficacy parameters for tissue growth and restoration

Exposure to 10 Hz has an immediate and direct effect on the mitochondria as demonstrated in the studies above. Pure organic ATP according to biological paradigm on planet Earth in both plants and animals.

A 10 Hz pulsed (square-wave) field increases cell’s organic production of ATP (the fuel that fires all cellular processes). This is the premise behind the theoretical proposition we call instantATP (organisms under the influence of pulsed electromagnetic fields 10 Hz).

Regardless of what studies are looked at, most concur with and support the conclusion that healthy cellular function is necessary for a healthy, vibrant body, including the appearance of skin and muscle tone. People understand that, as the human body ages, there exists a natural degradation of cellular function, which is representative of a lack of ATP synthesis ultimately responsible to power the cell. It is also known that specific outside sources, including micro-current, light-activated rejuvenation, and oxygen-infusion technology, can have a substantial impact on the stimulation of ATP synthesis, as well as work in harmony with the natural functions of the body.
There is little doubt that humans are all electrical beings and that ATP is truly the current of life. Having said this, the ability to stimulate ATP synthesis certainly brings people one step further in the pursuit of unraveling the mysteries of the fountain of youth.


10hz Alpha

Learn How To Meditate and Find the Peace Within Thu, 13 Oct 2016 22:19:01 +0000



I want to share with you some thoughts on why meditation can lead you to create more of what you want.

Meditation is becoming more a part of people’s new lives every day, and I hope it becomes part of your new life.

Meditation can raise the life of every individual to its full dignity in which perfect health, happiness and success are the natural features of daily life.

If you’re working like a hamster on a wheel, trying to keep up with life’s demands, you become reactive rather than proactive. Your working life, coupled with media vying for your constant attention is exhausting. So your mind gets no natural peace nor rest!

You know how it goes: Your mind and body become tired. You get irritable. The mind becomes fuzzy, and you become dispirited. You turn on the TV or surf the Internet, and yet all you get is more “pay attention to this” everywhere.

Taking time out by meditating regularly de-clutters the mind and brings to your mind, silence, stillness and peace. It replenishes you.

A moment of silence brings clarity and it is the birthplace of energy and new ideas; it is the ignition point for inspiration. This is where your enthusiasm for creativity, growth and renewal and come from.

But what happens when everything goes pear-shaped? The answer is to meditate with the intention to clear all obstacles blocking your path! Obstacles must move and they will move!

Of course, taking a meditation course is always a good start as with learning anything new.

People care so much about their physical health and physical cleanliness, yet they are oblivious to their energetic health, and that is where all health and vitality comes from.

Who or what influences your reality? Are you creating or being driven?


It’s amazing how we have instant access to so much information and entertainment.

Yet that’s external. If you outsource your happiness to movies, games, gadgets and devices or ‘keeping up with the Jones’s’, it tends to focus our attention on that happiness is external. It gives you no freedom to create what you want.

Never give away your power to outside forces. Your power lies internally. Staying connected to yourself is the most important thing you can do for yourself. Pure joy and freedom is sourced from within if you give yourself the chance!

How often are you turning inward and closing off everything else?

Being a constant multi-tasker has your brain always switched on. The mind absolutely requires downtime, regularly; for good health, happiness, well-being and creativity.

Meditation practice is cultivated over a period of time. Like someone who starts drawing stick figures and then goes on to learn how to paint beautiful creations, you too can learn how to create your fruitful life.

It is done by yielding to letting go and embracing your flow.

It is also said that, if God doesn’t give you a break, then take one!

Happiness is a state of mind, so the real source of happiness must lie within the mind, not in external conditions.

The Benefits of Meditation


  • Calms the parasympathetic nervous system
  • Helps insomnia immensely
  • Helps with weight loss
  • Decreases cortisol levels
  • Enhances the immune system
  • Reduces anxiety attacks by lowering the levels of blood lactate
  • Builds self-confidence
  • Increases serotonin level, influences mood and behavior
  • Increased emotional stability
  • Improved relationships
  • Develops intuition
  • Increases productivity
  • Higher intelligence growth rate
  • Increases the synchronicity in your life
  • You can read the 100+ benefits of meditation right here

If you give yourself the gift of learning how to meditate and if you are willing to cultivate the habit, the world is your oyster.

Meditation requires no special equipment, and is not complicated to learn. It can be practiced anywhere, at any given moment, and it is not time consuming. Fifteen to twenty minutes twice per day is good.

With such a huge list of benefits, the question you should ask yourself is, “why am I not meditating yet?”

  • As with all meditation, please note that if you are under the instruction of a psychologist or psychiatrist or are schizophrenic, please consult your practitioner prior to commencing this exercise.

Here is an Easy and Effective Meditation:


The most important thing to remember when meditating is not to expect anything to happen. If you’re lifting weights at the gym, you don’t expect the muscle to grow right before your eyes, and so it is with meditation.

The best attitude towards meditation is to be very patient as the mind does not always want to focus. Simply be diligent with your breathing.

Focus solely upon on your breathing. Keep the focus of your attention only upon the breath going in and out.

Sit upright in a chair which easily supports your spine so you don’t slouch. Place your hands gently and easily in your lap. Allow yourself to become relaxed and receptive. Allow your chin to go slightly downward and soften your eyes.

1. How to open yourself up to meditation if you’re stressed or if you are feeling resistance


1. Force a yawn with your mouth to the ceiling. This connects you to the non-physical.

2. Stretch your arms up over your head for as long as you can. This relaxes your lungs.

3. Roll your eyes into the back of your head for 30 seconds. Open your eyes and close them again.

4. Repeat as many times as needed until you feel a shift in your brain. This will takes you very quickly down into alpha brainwaves.

This short exercise is great anytime you need to relax instantly. Even at your desk at work 🙂

2. Physical Relaxation


Take 5-10 minutes visualizing each and and every part of your body tightening and then relaxing each part of your body allowing any tension to dissolve away easily…

Relax your feet – ankles – calves – knees thighs

Relax your pelvis- buttocks-stomach-rib-cage-collar bone

Relax your shoulders-shoulder-blades-upper-arms-lower-arms-hands-fingers

Relax your spine -starting at your tail-bone, relax each and every one of your vertebrae-lower back, middle back, upper back

Relax your throat and the back of your neck-your scalp and the skin covering your scalp.

Relax your forehead – eyebrows- third eye-nose-cheeks-jaw-teeth-lips-ears

Relax each and every muscle around your eyes all around your eyes and eyelids and underneath your eyes.

3. Meditation


Breathe in and out so smoothly that there is no pause between the “in” breath and the “out” breath.

It is just one, long continuous, flowing b-r-e-a-t-h, like a slow, sensuous sigh. Let it stroke you, as you might stroke a smooth piece of velvet or silk.

Your body will eventually become very still until you will not feel your feet or your hands.

Continue this for 20 minutes or so …

When you want to go deeper you can use your vivid imagination and pretend that your body is a giant sea sponge. Breathe in and out through every pore in your body like a gentle wave in the ocean.

Imagine that the air has transformed into light. This light is thicker and heavier than air. And as your breathing becomes heavier and slower, you many find yourself dropping deeper and deeper and more relaxed.

You can continue this until you feel like there is no ‘time’ for it is at this point you will have transcended the time-space continuum. You have reached the void, the field of pure potentiality.

When you are ready, come back to full awareness whenever you are ready. Enjoy the silence, the stillness and the bliss! Remember this place of silence as your anchor which you can come back to at any time.

Although the effects of meditation can be instantaneous, the cumulative effects will gradually weave their way into daily life when practiced regularly!

To read more about meditation or to contact Trish, you can reach her at

Originally posted at The Huffington Post



Please share your thoughts with me in the comments below …


How To Go From Anger To Happiness In 3 Seconds Mon, 27 Jun 2016 01:23:48 +0000

Mastering your energetic state is the greatest skill you can teach yourself, both for happiness and success in life.

It’s easier said than done because it requires a great deal of self-honesty, will power, and self-awareness, but it’s the most rewarding skillset you could teach yourself.

When we are stuck in a state of depression, anger, or frustration (or any other low vibration), there are basically two main ways in which we can approach that state.

We can approach it from an angle where we are looking for a solution to the source of the problem and reflect to see how we can prevent this experience from happening again. And we can also look at it from a much different angle that is directed at how to deal with the emotions within the first few seconds of them arising within the present moment.

In other words, we have long-term and short-term ways of dealing with our low vibration, both of which are necessary for learning the most we can from the experiences and keeping our sanity as we do so. In this article, we are going to look at three simple short-term solutions that can completely transform your vibration in a matter of seconds.

And let me be clear, the goal should never be to ESCAPE from a low vibration. We should allow ourselves to at first feel it, recognize it, and see what it is showing us. But at the same time, living there and dwelling there usually isn’t conducive to a solution long-term and can be totally toxic. It can also become a habit and an addiction to remain stuck in a low vibration. Sometimes, our responses to situations are just knee-jerk reactions and need to be balanced out and neutralized a bit before we can proceed in a useful manner.

buddha_happinessHere are 3 great ways to go from anger to happiness in seconds and be the driver of your energetic state:

1) Conscious Breathing

Take 3 conscious breaths right now. No for real. Do it. Take a deep inhale, and be there with the breath the entire way in, and be there with it on the way out. We give so much attention to the redundant thoughts in our heads and so little time to the breath which is constantly giving us life and sustaining our being. Every time you choose to stop what you are doing, turn your attention away from your ego’s response to a situation, and invest it into the flow of the breath, you are literally making the choice to evolve faster. Every time you take a deep breath, you are cultivating more peace, happiness, stillness, and clarity right away.

This is great to use when you are in the middle of a heated exchange with someone, or when you catch yourself falling into unproductive victimizing thought patterns. Stay with the breath, and stay grounded in Being. When you are grounded in Being, even emotions like anger and depression can be useful tools. Ground yourself with 3 deep breaths whenever possible, and this will help you be a better listener, cultivate more understanding, and proceed with levelheadedness.

2) Laugh

Find humour in the situation. Laugh at the fact that this is all a dream and life is temporary. Laugh at the fact that maybe you are taking life too seriously, or even do something like thing of something that is funny to you completely irrelevant to the situation. Think of a joke you think is funny, a favourite comedian, or a silly event that took place in your past.

The goal here is not to escape, but to step outside of the energetic momentum of the low vibration. The mind’s energy will want to keep you trapped there repeating the same thought patterns over and over again, and it wants each thought of anger to grow into a bigger thought so it can take in more of your awareness. When you think of something funny, you create a breakage in that negative energetic momentum. When you create that break, you can see things from a perspective different from the one of self-vicitimization. Instead of “That person did this to me, I hate them, how could they be so stupid”, your thoughts after you laugh may be something like “I guess maybe it’s not entirely their fault, maybe I am overreacting a bit I could go for a sandwich right now.”

3) Become the witness

This is the greatest kept secret of all. No matter how busy and cluttered your mind is, and no matter how much pain it is causing you, you can always choose to be the witness of it. Instead of being the character in the unfolding of the situation, you have the ability to become the witness of this character.

Something that I’ve been asking myself a lot lately whenever I feel something distasteful in my mind or in my energy field is “Can it be seen?”. The answer is always yes. If it can be seen by you, and if you can point to it, then it’s not you. If you can notice it happening within you, then there is an implicit separation between you (the noticer) and the activity which is being noticed.

There is the thought or the emotion, and then there is the awareness outside of the thought or the emotion that is able to notice it. Even right now, you are thinking. But you are also aware that you are thinking. Which part of you exists outside of thinking that knows it it is taking place? Which part of you is more real? Which part of you is more fundamental and more essential? An amazing realization is that the thinker is not who you are. You are not your mind, and you are not the voices in your head. You are instead the conscious space that thought exists within. Go to the place of that space, and rest there as the background awareness of the activity.

To “watch” a thought, is to notice that it is there. Don’t think about watching it or start judging or interpreting it, because to do so would be to reidentify with the mental chatter. Listening to it is equally as effective, and you will notice that if you listen to it that there is literally a voice saying words in your head all day. Listening to the voice for the first time as the awareness behind it and realizing that it’s not you is almost kind of scary. It is some foreign entity separate from your will and intention that is rambling on about the same crap all day. We are literally possessed by these voices, and they end up driving us into misery and sometimes insanity.

Conscious breathing, laughter, and becoming the witness to what is happening within you and the situation from a zoomed out view are all ways that you can shift your vibration in a matter of 3 to 10 seconds. The goal is not to avoid or escape negative vibrations, it is to make sure that WE are the ones in the driver seat. When we are rooted in being more while still remaining honest with how we feel inside, we have the perfect internal balance.

The next time you are in a low vibration, try taking a deep breath, thinking of something funny, or becoming the witness. Then come back to your problem after experiencing that energetic breaking of negative momentum, and you will be amazed at how much better you will be able to proceed with the situation in a constructive way.



Questions About Meditation You Were Too Embarrassed To Ask Fri, 01 Apr 2016 05:59:21 +0000

… Explained By Deepak Chopra

For everyone who’s thought about meditation but never actually gotten around to trying it.







What is meditation?

Deepak Chopra: Meditation is the progressive quieting of our mind, until we reach the source of thought, which in wisdom traditions are the realm of our soul and spirit. In this domain of awareness there is infinite creativity, synchronicity, the power of intention, and freedom from limitations.

How does it differ from, say, yoga or just resting with your eyes shut?

DC: Most Westerner’s conception of yoga is physical postures or asanas, which is only one of the traditional eight aspects of yoga. Yoga means union of the individual mind with universal mind, so meditation is considered the essence of yoga. The transformation of the mind and body during meditation is significantly more profound than simply resting with your eyes closed. Below is a brief sketch of the eight limbs of yoga:

1. Integrity: These are behaviors and attitudes that enhance our spiritual evolution and connection to life, truthfulness, nonviolence, self-sufficiency, gratitude, equanimity, etc.

2. Observances and self-discipline: These are behaviors that encourage spiritual habits like contentment, perseverance, surrender, self-inquiry, etc.

3. Physical postures (asana): This is the common interpretation of yoga and what is taught in yoga studios and by most yoga teachers. It is mind-body integration.

4. Breathing techniques (pranayama): There are over 100 breathing techniques that create different effects on our body such as energizing, cooling, calming, effecting the cardiovascular system and brain waves, etc.

5. Withdrawal of the senses and looking within the body (pratyahara): These also include various techniques called kriyas and bandhas, which allow us to have control over the internal organs of our body.

6. Focused awareness and attention (dharana).

7. Uninterrupted flow of unfocused attention (dhyana).

8. Transcendence (samadhi) is best understood as going beyond space and time and finding our identity as the ground state or source of the universe. It is the state of meditation where the self merges with the object of meditation and experiences the unity at the basis of all life.

What would be an easy way for someone try meditation? Can anyone just sit down and close their eyes and do it or do you need special training?

DC: Anyone can do simple forms of meditation. One can sit comfortably with your eyes closed, put your attention in your heart, ask yourself the following four questions:

1. Who am I?

2. What do I want?

3. What is my purpose?

4. What am I grateful for?

You don’t need to seek the answers, but just be aware of any sensations, thoughts, images that come to you. Effortlessly observe your breath for 10 minutes and you will come out refreshed. In addition you will start to experience synchronicity and coincidences in alignment with your life purposes and what you want.

What are the overall effects of meditation?

DC: Meditation has physiological effects of lowering blood pressure, slowing down heart rate, strengthening the immune systems, and even changing the cellular biology of aging. Stress hormones are decreased and hormones that modulate immune function are increased. In addition, meditation helps with better sleep and enhances intuition, creativity, conscious choice-making, and the experience of synchronicity. The ultimate goal of meditation goes beyond these positive physical and mental effects. The goal is to fully awaken the higher self, which is connected to the source of that all that exists. This aspect of meditation is referred to as the journey into enlightenment. We no longer fear death and it reveals our true nature beyond the separate self as immortal, infinite, and free.

Will meditation work on anyone?

DC: Meditation will work on anyone who has a functioning human nervous system. All you need is the intelligence to follow simple instructions. Even children as young as 4 and 5 have been taught to meditate successfully.

Is there a way to combine exercise and meditation?

DC: Exercise is a very good thing to alternate with meditation. Exercise helps to stabilize the effects of meditation as well as create a healthier, stronger body, which allows the mind to go more deep during meditation. But the two activities need their separate space, so allow about 10–15 minutes between doing one after the other.

How about someone with stress and anxiety who can’t even fathom having a “clear mind”?

DC: Such a person needs meditation more than anyone else because they are headed for a crisis. If stress and anxiety are so great that you can’t even imagine a calm clear mind, that indicates you are reaching your coping limits, and need to begin something like meditation just for the stress reduction benefits.











How often do you have to meditate in order to reap benefits?

DC: The ideal is twice a day but even once a day is a great start.

And for how long?

DC: When you are starting out with meditation, begin with 15–20 minutes each sitting. As you continue, you may gradually increase your time, if it is comfortable and you find it easy to integrate the effects of meditation into your daily life.

Are there different levels of meditation?

DC: Yes there are. There are general levels from beginner, to master, to enlightened being, with innumerable levels in between.

What do you say to someone who claims to have tried meditation but it “didn’t work” because they “had too much to think about”?

DC: They should persist as they need it most. The other choice is to settle for a stressed life, crisis, and illness in the future.

What about those that say they could be spending their time getting other things done?

DC: Meditation allows one to be more efficient and accomplish more by doing less. For those who are not willing to embrace this idea, hard work, exacting plans, and driving ambitions may help them accomplish their goals, but at a high cost that includes stress, illness, and addictive behavior.

Does my posture effect meditation?

DC: To a small extent. It is better not to lie down as that increases the tendency to fall sleep. Otherwise a comfortable upright sitting posture is good enough. In the case of people in hospitals, meditation can be taught sitting up in bed.

Is there an ideal time of day to meditate?

DC: The best time to meditate is early in the morning after getting up and before sunset.

Is there a way to still be productive while meditating?

DC: That question itself suggests a stressful mind. Meditation provides a basis for productive activity that activity itself cannot provide, the same way sleep improves our productivity, even though you can’t be productive while you sleep.









Do I need to turn off my TV and other electronics in order for it to work?

DC: Meditation works better when there is silence in your surroundings. If the mind is repeatedly drawn out to deal with environmental stimuli, then it has fewer opportunities to dive down deep into the silence of being.

Can you meditate to your favorite pop song or music video or is that too distracting/not the point?

DC: What you are suggesting might be relaxing or enjoyable, but it would not be considered meditation, because there is no procedure there for experiencing your true self.

Can you meditate with others or will they distract and/or take away from benefits?

DC: Meditating with others is good, because collective meditation enhances the effect both for the individual, as well as the positive influence it creates in the environment.

Are there any negative aspects of meditation that people should be wary of?

DC: Meditation itself does not have negative effects, but if someone has a seizure disorder, or severe mental illness, they should consult their doctor before practicing meditation.

What is mindfulness, and why is everyone talking about it lately?

DC: Mindfulness means paying full attention to what you are doing in the present moment. Mindfulness meditation has become popular, as it is easy to do. Observing sensations in your body has profound and beneficial effect on our physiology.

If this were The Idiot’s Guide to Meditation, what three things would you want us to take away from this?

1. Relax.

2. Breathe.

3. Push the pause button before reacting.

Will meditation change my life?

DC: Yes, meditation will change your life for the better, enhance your physical health, improve your sleep, and help you achieve your goals, both material and spiritual.






Source:  Whitney Jefferson, Buzzfeed 

What is The Purpose of Meditation? Sat, 12 Mar 2016 08:10:08 +0000


Dharma: There is no single word translation for dharma in western languages.

In Hinduism, dharma signifies behaviours that are considered to be in accord with the Vedic religion, rta, the order that makes life and universe possible, and includes duties, rights, laws, conduct, virtues and ‘‘right way of living’’. In Buddhism dharma means “cosmic law and order“, but is also applied to the teachings of the Buddha.


(07702_ng-2.psd) Lama Zopa Rinpoche teaching at the Fifth Meditation Course, Kopan Monastery, Nepal, 1973. Photo by Ursula Bernis.

Lama Zopa Rinpoche teaching at the Fifth Meditation Course, Kopan Monastery, Nepal, 1973. Photo by Ursula Bernis.

I would like to say a few words in introduction about the practice of meditation. Many people throughout the world, in the West as well as the East, are very interested in meditating. They are attracted to this practice and express great interest in it. Yet, of all the many people who engage in meditation, only a few really understand its purpose.

Each of us here possesses a physical body made up of bones, flesh, blood and such things. At present we are not able to exert complete control over this body and as a result we always experience problems. There might be a rich man whose wealth is equal to that of the entire world yet despite his enormous fortune, if his mind is tied up in an uncontrolled body, he will live in continual suffering. Rich or poor, none of us escape this problem. Try as we may, we never seem to find an end to our difficulties. If we solve one, another immediately takes its place. The conflicts and suffering involved in maintaining our physical body are the same no matter where we may be. If we have the wisdom to penetrate deeply into the heart of this matter and check the actual way things are, we quickly perceive the universality of this unsatisfactory situation. It also becomes clear that if we did not have such an uncontrolled body, there would be no way for us to experience the sufferings related to it.

The main problem we all have is the suffering of not achieving our various desires. These include the obvious physical necessities of food and clothing as well as such enjoyable things as a good reputation, the sound of pleasant and comforting words and the like. Some forms of suffering, such as the hunger of an extremely impoverished person, are more obvious than others. But in one way or another, we all hunger uncontrollably for things we do not possess.

Take the example of someone who was fortunate enough to be born into a wealthy family. During his lifetime he may never experience material want. He can afford to buy anything that arouses his desire and is free to travel wherever he pleases, experiencing the various delights and excitement offered by different cultures. When he finally reaches the point where there is nothing left to possess, no place left to visit and no pleasure left to experience, he still suffers from an acute feeling of dissatisfaction. In such a restless, dissatisfied state of mind many people go insane, unable to cope with this intense and pervasive suffering.

Thus even when there is no lack of material comfort there is still suffering. In fact it often happens that possession of material wealth increases dissatisfaction, because it then becomes even more obvious that such possessions have no ability whatsoever to affect or cut through the root of suffering. There is still the continuity of dissatisfaction, confusion, worry and the rest. If an accumulation of external comforts really were able to cut through and eliminate suffering, then at some stage of physical well-being this continuity of suffering would be severed and all dissatisfaction would cease. But as long as our mind is tied up with an uncontrolled body, suffering continues.

For instance, in order to protect our feet from rough ground and sharp thorns, we wear shoes. Yet this does not really eliminate the problem. The shoes themselves often hurt. They can pinch our toes, produce sores and generally cause discomfort. This is not primarily the shoemaker’s fault. If our feet were not so long, wide or sensitive in the first place, it would be possible to fashion totally comfortable shoes for them. Thus if we look deeply into the matter we see that the source of this discomfort is not external, but rather lies within our own physical and mental make-up.

This is merely one example of the suffering experienced because of our physical body. From the time we are born until the time we must die, we expend a tremendous amount of energy trying to protect this body of ours from suffering. In fact, most people spend all their time caring for their body in precisely this fruitless, self-defeating manner.

But the purpose of meditation is not merely to take care of the physical body. We should not think of using meditation in this way. It should have a higher, more valuable purpose. To use meditation as yet another external method to benefit our body is senseless. This would involve wasting a technique of true, ultimate value on a vain attempt to gain relief that is at best temporary. Meditation would then be like the aspirin we take to be rid of a headache. The pain may go away, but that does not mean we are cured. After some time it will return because the method of treatment was unrelated to the real cause of the difficulty and thus any relief gained will necessarily be short-lived. As temporary pleasure and alleviation of pain are available through many external means, there is no need to use either meditation or any other spiritual practice for such a purpose. We should not squander the power of meditation on such limited aims.

Meditation is primarily concerned with caring for the mind. Although our body and mind are intimately related and interconnected, they are quite different types of phenomena. Our body is an object we can see with our eyes, but not so the mind. The members of a particular family may share many similar physical traits, but each child will instinctively have a different personality, mental attitude, set of interests and the like. Though they attend the same schools, their intelligence and learning will differ not only from each other’s but from their parents’ and grandparents’ as well. Such differences of mind cannot be adequately explained in physical terms.

It should also be noted that there are children who have accurate memories of previous lives. They can tell where they were born, how they lived and so forth, and can recognize people and objects from these previous lives. Such accounts are verifiable and provide intriguing evidence for any investigator prepared to study this matter with an unbiased mind.

In any event, the underlying reason for different mental aptitudes among members of the same family, and for certain children’s memory of previous lifetimes, is the fact that mind is beginningless. Past lives do exist. While we cannot go into a subtle analysis here of what does and what does not provide the continuity between one life and the next, the important thing to keep in mind is this: just as our mind has continued from a past life into the present, so will it pass on from the present into the future. The circumstances of our present life result from actions, both mental and physical, performed in these previous lives. Similarly, our present actions will determine the circumstances of our future lives. Thus the responsibility lies in our own hands for shaping the remainder of this life and those to come. It is very important to recognize this if we are to find effective means for cutting through both mental and physical suffering permanently.

Each of us has been born as a human being. As such we have the potential to give meaning and purpose to our life. But to take full advantage of it, we must go beyond what the lower animals can do. By utilizing such a human rebirth properly and gaining control over our mind, we can sever the root of all suffering completely. Within the space of one or more lives we can escape from the compulsive cycle of death and rebirth. As it is, we have to be reborn again and again without any choice or control, experiencing all the sufferings of an uncontrolled physical body. But with the proper application this involuntary cycle can be broken. We can escape from all suffering and dissatisfaction permanently.

But to escape from the circle of death and rebirth ourselves is not enough. This is still not an appropriate way of using our human capabilities to the utmost. We are not the only ones who experience suffering and dissatisfaction; all other living beings share in the same predicament. And most other beings lack the wisdom—the Dharma eye of wisdom—to find the correct path to the cessation of their suffering. All creatures on earth, without exception, spend their whole life, day and night, searching for a way to overcome suffering and experience pleasure and happiness. But because their minds are clouded in ignorance, this search is in vain. Instead of leading to the intended goal, it brings them only further frustration and pain. They try to remove the cause of their suffering but instead only remove themselves further and further from nirvana, the true cessation of suffering.

All living beings suffer and desire release in the same way we do. If we realize this, it becomes apparent that it is selfish to work solely towards our own liberation, our own experience of nirvana. Rather we must strive to free all others as well. But in order to enlighten others as to the correct paths leading to a true cessation of suffering, we ourselves must first become fully enlightened beings. In other words, we must achieve buddhahood in order to help liberate others.

The situation can be explained like this. Suppose we want to bring a friend to a beautiful park so that she can enjoy it. If we are blind there is no way for us to lead her there no matter how much we may so desire. It is necessary for us to have good vision and to be well-acquainted with the road leading to the park before we can even think of bringing her there. In the same way, we must have a complete experience of full enlightenment before we can discern the best paths whereby all beings, with their varying mental aptitudes and temperaments, can be led to their own liberation from suffering.

Thus when we talk about the true purpose of meditation we are talking about the attainment of enlightenment, an attainment that enables us to fulfill not only our own aims but also those of all others. This is the entire purpose of and the only reason for engaging in meditation. All the great yogis and meditation masters of the past have practiced the Dharma with just this purpose in mind. Likewise, when we meditate—and in Buddha’s teachings there are literally hundreds of different meditations to choose from depending on our level of realization—we should do so with this same motivation.

Thus spiritual practices are very necessary. We are not compelled to meditate by some outside agent, by other people, or by God. Rather, just as we are responsible for our own suffering, so are we solely responsible for our own cure. We have created the situation in which we find ourselves, and it is up to us to create the circumstances for our release. Therefore, as suffering permeates our life, we have to do something in addition to our regular daily routine. This “something” is spiritual practice or, in other words, meditation. If we do not turn inwards and train our mind, but instead expend all our energy on arranging and rearranging the external aspects of our existence, then our suffering will continue. Our suffering has had no beginning, and if we do not adopt an effective spiritual practice, neither will it have an end.

Generally speaking, it is difficult to practice the Dharma in an environment of great material abundance. This is because there are many distractions to interfere with our meditation. However, the actual root of these distractions is not in the environment itself. It is not in the machines of industry, our food, or anything like that. It is within our own mind. It has been a pleasant surprise for me during this, my first visit to the West, to see that along with material progress there is substantial interest here in Dharma practice and in meditation of various types. Many people are sincerely searching for the higher meaning of human life, trying to transcend the everyday, animal concerns of their existence. In this respect I think it is very wise that people are trying to combine a spiritual with a practical way of life, one that provides deep mental as well as physical comfort. For such people life will certainly not be an empty promise.

Food prepared from many different ingredients can be truly delicious. In the same way, if we have a job or some such daily activity and also try to work as much as possible on perfecting a spiritual path and following the Dharma, our life can become very rich. The benefits we experience by combining these two approaches to life are far-reaching.

There is a great difference between the mind, feelings and experiences of someone who adds an understanding of Dharma to his or her daily life and one who does not. The former meets with far less confusion and experiences far less suffering when encountering difficulties in the material world. He has a controlled mind and a meaningful framework within which he can handle his problems skillfully. This will apply not only to his everyday experiences but especially to those encountered when he dies.

If we have never engaged in any spiritual practice, have never trained our mind through the discipline of meditation, then the experiences surrounding our death can be very frightening indeed. For the most advanced Dharma practitioner, however, death is like a pleasant journey back home. It is almost like going to a beautiful park for a picnic. And even for someone who has not achieved the highest realizations afforded by meditation, death can be a comfortable, not horrible, experience. Such a person can face his death—something we must all eventually do—with his mind at ease. He is not overwhelmed by fear or worry about what he will experience, or about the loved ones, possessions or body he will leave behind. In this life we have already experienced birth and are now in the process of growing old. The one thing we all have left to look forward to is our death. Thus if our spiritual practice can help us face the inevitable with peace of mind, then our meditations have been very useful, although there are much higher purposes to which our practices can be put.

To summarize, it is not the external appearance of our meditation that is important. Whether we sit with our arms folded this way and our legs crossed that way is of little consequence. But it is extremely important to check and see if whatever meditation we do is an actual remedy for our suffering. Does it effectively eliminate the delusions obscuring our mind? Does it combat our ignorance, hatred and greed! If it does reduce these negativities of mind, then it is a perfect meditation, truly practical and greatly worthwhile. If on the other hand it merely serves to generate and increase our negativities, such as pride, then it is only another cause of suffering. In such a case, even though we may say we are meditating, we are not actually following a spiritual path or practicing Dharma at all.

Dharma is a guide away from suffering, away from problems. If our practice does not guide us in this direction then something is wrong and we must investigate what it might be. In fact, the fundamental practice of all true yogis is to discover which of their actions bring suffering and which happiness. They then work to avoid the former and follow the latter as much as possible. This is the essential practice of Dharma.

One final word. All of us who are beginning our practice of Dharma, starting to meditate and gain control of our mind need to rely on proper sources of information. We should read books of sound authority and, when doubts arise, we should consult teachers who have mastered their study and practice. This is very important. If we are guided by books written without a proper understanding, there is the great danger that our life will be spent following an incorrect path. Even more important is choosing the correct teacher, guru or lama. He or she must have correct realizations and must actually live the practice of the Dharma.

Our practice of meditation, of mental cultivation, should not be passive. We shall not be able to break the bonds of suffering by blindly accepting what someone, even a great master, tells us to do. Rather we should use our innate intelligence to check and see if a suggested course of action is effective. If we have good reason to believe that a teaching is valid and will be helpful, then by all means we should follow it. As with medicine, once we have found some that can reasonably be expected to cure us, we should take it. Otherwise, if we swallow anything that happens to come into our hands, we run the great risk of aggravating rather than curing our illness.

This is my final suggestion for those beginners who have an interest in studying Dharma and meditating. Spiritual pursuits can be very worthwhile. Yet even if you cannot practice Dharma, a mere understanding of it can enrich your life and give it meaning. I think that is all. Thank you very much.



By Kyabje Lama Zopa Rinpoche
Indiana, USA July 1974
From a talk given July 1974 in Indiana, USA. Appears in Wisdom Energy by Wisdom Publications.
Why Silence Is So Good For Your Brain Tue, 08 Mar 2016 06:45:22 +0000

In a loud and distracting world, finding pockets of stillness can benefit your brain and body. Here are four science-backed reasons why.

Making time for silence can make you feel less stressed, more focused and more creative, according to science.

Making time for silence can make you feel less stressed, more focused and more creative, according to science.


We live in a loud and distracting world, where silence is increasingly difficult to come by — and that may be negatively affecting our health.

In fact, a 2011 World Health Organization report called noise pollution a “modern plague,” concluding that “there is overwhelming evidence that exposure to environmental noise has adverse effects on the health of the population.”

We’re constantly filling our ears with music, TV and radio news, podcasts and, of course, the multitude of sounds that we create nonstop in our own heads. Think about it: How many moments each day do you spend in total silence? The answer is probably very few.

As our internal and external environments become louder and louder, more people are beginning to seek out silence, whether through a practice of sitting quietly for 10 minutes every morning or heading off to a 10-day silent retreat.

Inspired to go find some peace and quiet? Here are four science-backed ways that silence is good for your brain — and how making time for it can make you feel less stressed, more focused and more creative.

1. Silence relieves stress and tension. 

Florence Nightingale, the 19th century British nurse and social activist, once wrote that “Unnecessary noise is the most cruel absence of care that can be inflicted on sick or well.” Nightingale argued that needless sounds could cause distress, sleep loss and alarm for recovering patients.

It turns out that noise pollution has been found to lead to high blood pressure and heart attacks, as well as impairing hearing and overall health. Loud noises raise stress levels by activating the brain’s amygdala and causing the release of the stress hormone cortisol, according to research.

An unpublished 2004 paper by environmental psychologist Dr. Craig Zimring suggests that higher noise levels in neonatal intensive care units led to elevated blood pressure, increased heart rates and disrupted patient sleep patterns.

Just as too much noise can cause stress and tension, research has found that silence has the opposite effect, releasing tension in the brain and body.

A 2006 study published in the journal Heart found two minutes of silence to be more relaxing than listening to “relaxing” music, based on changes in blood pressure and blood circulation in the brain.

2. Silence replenishes our mental resources.

In our everyday lives, sensory input is being thrown at us from every angle. When we can finally get away from these sonic disruptions, our brains’ attention centers have the opportunity to restore themselves.

The ceaseless attentional demands of modern life put a significant burden on the prefrontal cortex of the brain, which is involved in high-order thinking, decision-making and problem-solving.

As a result, our attentional resources become drained. When those attention resources are depleted, we become distracted and mentally fatigued, and may struggle to focus, solve problems and come up with new ideas.

But according to attention restoration theory, the brain can restore its finite cognitive resources when we’re in environments with lower levels of sensory input than usual. In silence — for instance, the quiet stillness you find when walking alone in nature — the brain can let down its sensory guard, so to speak.

3. In silence, we can tap into the brain’s default mode network. 

The default mode network of the brain is activated when we engage in what scientists refer to as “self-generated cognition,” such as daydreaming, meditating, fantasizing about the future or just letting our minds wander.

When the brain is idle and disengaged from external stimuli, we can finally tap into our inner stream of thoughts, emotions, memories and ideas. Engaging this with quotecorner online pharmacy network helps us to make meaning out of our experiences, empathize with others, be more creative and reflect on our own mental and emotional states.

In order to do this, it’s necessary to break away from the distractions that keep us lingering on the shallow surfaces of the mind. Silence is one way of getting there.

Default mode activity helps us think deeply and creatively. As Herman Melville once wrote, “All profound things and emotions of things are preceded and attended by silence.”

4. Getting quiet can regenerate brain cells.

Silence can quite literally grow the brain.

2013 study on mice, published in the journal Brain, Structure, and Function, involved comparing the effects of ambient noise, white noise, pup calls and silence on the rodents’ brains. Although the researchers intended to use silence as a control in the study, they found that two hours of silence daily led to the development of new cells in the hippocampus, a key brain region associated with learning, memory and emotion.

While preliminary, the findings suggested that silence could be therapeutic for conditions like depression and Alzheimer’s, which are associated with decreased rates of neuron regeneration in the hippocampus.


Carolyn Gregoire
Senior Writer, The Huffington Post



Meditation: What Can and Can’t Be Taught Thu, 04 Feb 2016 06:37:17 +0000

buddha-lockBy most standards, I’m a fairly experienced meditator. I meditate daily, and have for years. I’ve spent months at a time immersed in silent practice. I study it, teach it, and write about it.

I can still wonder if I’m doing it wrong.

Meditation is deeply personal. Except with the broadest brushstrokes, this intricate journey into one’s most intimate inner experience can not be translated or taught. Teachers may of course share their intuition and expertise, but it is not possible to get inside another person and co-pilot the constantly changing labyrinth of mind and heart that makes up our moment-by-moment awareness. Nobody else can steer for us a micro-course through the unending deluge of mental and physical stimuli that besets us all. The absolute inwardness of the practice leaves each practitioner to navigate the specifics on his or her own.

Nor is meditation a one-size-fits-all undertaking. Buddhism alone offers many approaches. Even within the narrower domain of vipassana – the practice that has been my framework for almost two decades – there are dozens of ways. Many road maps detail the general terrain, but a map is never the actual territory. We are each by necessity our own scout, sherpa, and surveyor in exploring the terra incognita of our deepest nature.

Then, as one develops some skill and experience with the journey – it gets harder (at least in some respects). The challenges grow more subtle. The fractal-like complexity of the mind seems never-ending. As we encounter deeper stillness we meet yet another koan: the quieting mind can paradoxically seem busier than usual, as we come to see how much more is available to our field of awareness than we usually realize.

If meditation is to be something more than well-intentioned, semi-spiritual daydreaming, the decision points become endless. When is it best simply to observe what arises in the mind/body, when best to dig into the nature of what is arising? If digging, what is the nature of this investigation, and how far is it to go? Is it beneficial to cultivate certain mind-states such as forgiveness, compassion, awe, or infinity? When does it help to apply a laser-tight focus, when to hold a longer leash? And of course, let’s not forget the most fertile and perplexing ground of all – who, where, or what is the I that does any of this?

Some teachers counsel never to steer. Do nothing, they advise. Simply observe thoughts, body sensations, and emotions. Let arise whatever arises, let subside whatever subsides. Watch, with exquisite attention; observe if possible how these arisings form and how they wither, but don’t get caught up in content. Be always, only, the consummate witness.

Other teachers encourage amplifying certain states when they are present, most notably what are called the brahma-viharas – certain qualities of human experience, such as compassion and equanimity, that in Buddhism carry elevated status. Some traditions and practices broaden this further, encouraging cultivating a range of mind/body states that might be considered beneficial or “skillful.”

The path may be easier for devotees who align themselves narrowly with a specific teacher or theory, and stick with it no matter what. I can’t know this for sure: It has never been my way. I have tried to impose a narrow allegiance on my practice but it doesn’t last long.

Still, one central choice informs my journey, which I adopted as a neophyte and never abandoned: I meditate with no goal in mind. This, too, is another paradox; the mental and physical benefits of meditation are well documented — but meditating with the explicit aim of achieving these benefits may make them more elusive. Instead, from the outset I have embraced meditation as something more radical: A daily practice outside the relentless, restless urge to accomplish something. As best as I am able, my approach is goal-less, aimless, unmeasurable. By suspending an eye on a particular destination, meditation then opens a silent window into fathomless mysteries that transcend words or logic. At least sometimes.

And so I stumble, forge, and persevere on, sailing solo, as I progress or meander through the general landscape of my innermost human nature. I keep a few road maps in my back pocket, along with helpful suggestions gleaned from current teachers, ancient masters, and other practitioners. I refer to them as needed. When I am lost, I try to remember to ask for directions.

But mostly I trust that I have not veered so far astray in a wilderness of my own design that the journey itself is misbegotten, the route washed out. The practice itself, I have come to believe, knows the way better than do I. The practice itself is my ultimate guide. My meditation teacher is meditation.

At least, this is where I place my faith.

(I spent the winter of 2012 in silence on a self-guided retreat at the Forest Refuge, a Buddhist meditation center in rural Massachusetts. This twice-monthly blog explores how intensive retreats offer a compass for everyday life).

Source: Huffington Post
Steven Schwartzberg
Ph.D. clinical psychologist, dharma student, intentional nomad.

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I Am Energy. I Am Infinite. I Am Abundance. Sun, 15 Nov 2015 07:16:14 +0000



I Am Energy. I Am Infinite. I Am Money.

Most people think they know me.

They don’t.

I am not what most people think I am. I am not the paper in your wallet, or the coins that jingle in your purse. I am not quietly sitting in your bank account, hoping to be used one day.

You cannot see me, feel me or touch me.

I am an idea. I am energy.

I’m neither good nor evil. I am only what you decide that I am, and I fulfill the role that you create for me.

I don’t care how smart you are, where you live, what you do, or where you come from.

All I care about is your energy.

Your energy decides what thoughts you have, and therefore your thoughts will determine the relationship you have with me.

I have very simple needs, and simple rules.

I am infinite.

I have no limits, except for those you place on me with your mind. There is no limit to the energy in the world, and because I am simply energy, I cannot be restricted or controlled.

I crave abundance.

I am attracted to those who think without restrictions, who like to think big. When you believe there is enough of me to go around, I am naturally magnetized by that thinking.

I despise scarcity.

Because there is no limit to me, I avoid those who think from a win/lose or scarcity perspective. Those who believe I am in short supply, or difficult to receive, will find that very reality, because I choose to avoid those who think small.

I love value.

What magnetizes me most is the creation of value in the universe. I move to places where value is created, because creation is energy. If you wish to attract me into your life, focus on creating value for others, and I will appear.

I avoid entitlement and complacency.

No one ‘deserves’ to have me, and I am always moving to the place I am most respected and where value is created. It has nothing to do with ‘fair’. Those who take me for granted or become complacent with my energy will find me gone.

I only have one job, and that is to serve you.

It is a matter of energy and value creation. My purpose is simply to move to where I am attracted most, and where I can grow.

My one goal is to replicate myself.

Because there is no limit to energy, my purpose is to reproduce and grow, in order
to bring more energy to the universe. I am created and replicated through value creation. I am an energy of evolution.

The message for you should be clear. Those who create value for others in the world will find me in their lives.

I am whatever you believe me to be.

So what you believe about me can make you miserable, or what you believe can
enable you to perform miracles.

I’m neither positive, nor negative.

Total Money MagnetismI am what you decide I am.

If you fear me in any way, I can crush your ability to survive. If you get to know me, I can make your life flourish and your dreams come alive.

I can be your master, or I can be your servant.

I am only what you make me.

So, the relationship we have together will be determined by you.

Isn’t it time we got to know each other better?

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(By Greg Habstritt)

Addressing the Important Letting Go Process Mon, 07 Sep 2015 06:20:51 +0000
letting go

Addressing the Important Letting Go Process



While Meditation addresses and facilitates the letting go process, this article examines the process itself.

The path to health and happiness is often not a path of adding to or gaining something, but of removal or letting go. This is a critical principle of healing that is rarely discussed.

The media, books and even parents often encourage us to obtain more, to attain great heights, to grow and accumulate degrees, things, friends, children, money and so on.  All of this has its place.  However, its opposite – learning to let go of the past, in particular, and of all attitudes, emotions, things, friends and other “baggage” that are holding one back – is often a hidden key to happiness and healing.  It is a must to make room for more wonderful things to come.  Let us explore the secret of the very freeing process of letting go.


              Leaving your comfort zone.  Learning to let go of old habits, ideas, people who are not serving your best interests, and much more is not an easy task for anyone.  The main reason is one must leave one’s comfort zone or familiar situations, habits and thinking patterns.  This is stressful, often in the extreme.  Therefore, most people simply do not do it. They make excuse after excuse as to why they should not change, rather than embrace change.  This is the main block in most people’s way when it comes to letting go of anything in one’s life.

Letting go can be as simple as recycling or giving away old clothing.  It can be as radical as leaving a long-standing marriage or friendship and changing one’s entire lifestyle.  Whichever it is, it is always going to be somewhat painful.  I mention this because the feeling of loss that accompanies any type of letting go is perfectly normal, and should not be confused.  If one expects no pain, then when the pain of separation and letting go and abandonment hit, many people turn away rather than move forward boldly.  This is the main reason that most people do not make the most of their lives.

Letting go is always somewhat scary.  Letting go is also frightening for other reasons.  One is that the future is always unknown.  The past, miserable as it might have been, is known and thus one can more easily navigate through it, knowing at least what to expect, even if it is not great.  The future, however, is completely unknown and this is very unnerving for most people.  This is the second important stumbling block that prevents most people from moving forward in their lives.

The third block is that the future is unpredictable.  This is related to the second block, but is somewhat different.  It means that no matter how well you plan ahead, the future is inherently difficult to prepare for, unlike past attitudes, relationships and habits with which one is more familiar.  This, also, stops some people from moving on because they don’t even know what they need to prepare for their futures.

The fourth block is that few people realize that when one truly lets go and forges ahead, one will have few if any reference points to evaluate their next move.  This may seem trite, but is extremely important.  Because of this fact, a wonderful counselor I once spoke with told me that if an opportunity that arose for me seemed comfortable, then it probably was not truly my future.  Whereas, if an opportunity arose that seemed quite nebulous, with few reference points, it was actually more likely to be related to my true future.

This may seem counterintuitive, but the counselor explained that it is an important reason why most people have difficulty really letting go of their past and embracing their future.  He called this process “movement”.

Another block to movement or moving on in your life is thinking you will lose some essential part of your identify, personality, friendships, family relations or other parts of yourself that you value.  This was a stumbling block for me as well.  Know that if you truly embrace your future, this will not occur.  In fact, when you move ahead and let go of your past, more, not less of your personality and gifts will manifest.  I can only tell you this from experience, and everyone experiences this fear that they will lose their identity, talents, friendships and so on.  You may seem to lose some, but if you do then anything you lose was not really you.  This may seem harsh, but many of us do not really know our deepest self, our deepest identity, and even who our real friends are.  Please consider this statement carefully.


These, in fact, are similar if one forgives properly.  However, it is possible to let go of something or someone without forgiving.  It is not possible to forgive properly without letting go. Meditation Classes & Courses  facilitate this process for it to be easier.


Dysfunctional living habits offer temporary relief, but add stress and strain in the long run.  They may include staying up later than 9 or 9:30 PM at night, taking on too many obligations, distracting oneself or procrastinating instead of facing challenges and work, or perhaps avoiding exercise.  Others include eating too much, skipping meals, drinking too much coffee or alcohol, smoking, eating junk food or sugar, getting upset over trifles or taking stimulants or depressants instead of addressing deeper causes of unhappiness.

To let go of these habits first requires a commitment to your self.  You are worth the effort!  Often, a good solution is to substitute better habits.  For example, instead of staying up late, record the late television show, drink calming herb tea to help you slow down, decide you will not start projects after dinnertime, and start preparing for bed early.

Extra obligations.  To avoid accepting too many obligations, set aside time periods on your calendar each day that are just for you – for meals, exercise, a long walk by yourself, a bath, perhaps, or another favorite recreation or activity. Refuse to give up these time slots for anyone or anything.  You will feel selfish or maybe you will miss parties or other gatherings, but it is all good training.

In particular, set aside time for rest, to breathe deeply, to relax and to have peaceful, sit-down meals.  This also means setting aside enough time to shop for food and to prepare meals with love.  Eating is not something to squeeze in between appointments.  Especially avoid eating in your car, or while conducting business at an office.  Establishing these simple habits will influence all your other habits in many cases.  Good habits foster other good habits, in other words.  The rewards in your health will more than compensate for the time taken to focus on these simple good habits.

If you tend to overdo on alcohol, coffee, sugar, junk food or medications, there are many ways to shift your habits. Getting enough rest and sleep, eating better and exercising regularly in a gentle and mild way will assist in reducing cravings.  Don’t keep tempting foods, beverages or drugs in your environment.  Ask for cooperation from those around you.  Keep better quality foods on hand at all times for when temptation arises.  Experiment with alternatives. Sometimes support groups and professional help are also excellent.

When you endeavour to change any habit, do so in the spirit of celebration, not from need.  The spirit of celebration means that you have already overcome it in your mind.  You just need a little help to work out the details.  This is a far cry from feeling you are a wretched victim of some habit and that someone or some therapy is needed to “fix” you.

Another trick for letting go of unwanted habits is to regularly treat yourself to healthful activities and therapies that balance and enhance mind and body.  These can include Acupuncture, Rolfing, energy work, foot reflexology treatments, chiropractic adjustments and perhaps a class of very gentle yoga, tai chi or another.  Just be very careful with yoga and tai chi, as many are injured in these classes.  It must be extremely gentle and the teacher MUST walk around during the entire class and make sure you are doing each pose or position correctly at all times.  Otherwise, I do not recommend these activities. Much better to join a hiking club or gardening club.

Other general suggestions to help you let go of the past are to seek balance and harmony in every aspect of your life. If someone or something is continually kicking you out of balance, look at it carefully.  Try continuously to separate the important from the unimportant, the essential from the non-essential.  This is an ancient teaching that is very important today.  Is hanging out with your friends really essential?  The answer is usually no.  Is eating correctly and sleeping plenty each night essential?  The answer is a definite yes if you want to be healthy.

Also helpful is to live in a clean, safe and quiet location, surrounded by some natural beauty.  Much less important is to have a lot of things, such as a big house or other “trappings” of society.

Remember always that the body follows the mind.  Therefore, try to police your mind as much as you can.  Note what you focus on, what you think about, and what you tend to ignore.  For example, if you focus too much on physical symptoms and conditions, you will often perpetuate them without realizing why this occurs.  If, instead, you focus on God, on being grateful for whatever you have, no matter how little it is, on helping others rather than on receiving help from others, you will heal much faster.

Also, of course, focus on what you can let go of that is in your way.  This can be anything from a food or habit to a thinking pattern or attitude or a person.  Contrary to many books, for example, families need not “stick together” when the children are grown up, or even before in a few cases.  Be careful not to be trapped in popular belief systems that are harmful for you.  However, this does not mean throwing out all societal norms, which is another trap for many young people today.  I highly recommend the Ten Commandments, for example.  They work exceedingly well in most cases. Avoid the rampant temptation today to disregard them as just some old teaching that is not relevant in the modern world. They are totally relevant!

Physical symptoms.  Often physical symptoms are best seen as conversations your body is having with you. This is a much more wholesome and in fact more true understanding of many symptoms, rather than thinking in terms of “diseases” that are out to get you.  What are your symptoms telling you?  Ask often and you will get answers, particularly if you leave yourself quiet time to contemplate and meditate daily.  Taking a walk daily is a wonderful way to empty your mind, let go of the day’s cares and allow your future to come to you.


This is a great spiritual lesson.  I meet many people who are deeply concerned with “finding themselves”.  This often means finding a career, a relationship, love, power, money or something like this.  I have found that the key is make room for your future by letting go of your entire past.

I emphasize entire past because for me this is what it takes.  In other words, question everything and everyone in your life.  Let them all go mentally and emotionally.  This does not mean you must get a divorce or leave school, however.  It means to be free in your mind.  Then you will figure out in an objective way if the job, the school, the friends and so on are really for you.  But you must first let them all go emotionally in order to see where the future may lie.  That is the key.


Examples of beliefs that may need to be let go include many fears, all resentments, guilt, at times, remorse, excessive seriousness, and most judgments expressed as ‘shoulds’, ‘oughts’, ‘musts’ and ‘have tos’.

These familiar bedfellows have a way of hanging around, changing form in deceptive manners, and then blocking you from your future.  Often one is not even aware of their presence in the deep recesses of the mind.  This is where really honest friends and even strangers can be extremely helpful, at times.  Try to listen to those who are bold enough to speak up to you, saying things that may not feel good to you or to them, but which sometimes need to be said.  Too often, we shun those who speak the truth to us and only embrace those who think just like us.

Affirmations to help one let go of the past.  A few carefully chosen and simple affirmations may also be helpful to dredge up deeply held resentments and negative attitudes.  Such affirmations are not intended to be used for brainwashing. The purpose of such an affirmation is not to change anything, but just to bring up all thoughts that are unlike the affirmation.

For example, the affirmation, “I choose fearlessness” will accelerate or bring up all thoughts of fear within you if you say it often.  Try it for a week or two and you will see this if you do it faithfully and with conviction.

Know that in spite of your best efforts to let them go, old belief patterns will often continue to come up for a while, especially if one is in the habit of indulging them. Just denying them usually won’t make them go away.  Instead, letting go means to notice them, but don’t allow them to make a home in your mind.  Notice them, bless them and see them as a relic of a dead past.  Turn them over to a higher power.  Take a walk, take a nap or otherwise shift your focus and let them go. You do have a choice which emotions and thoughts you will entertain in your mind.  It takes a lot of practice, but the old thoughts will begin to lose their hold on you.

For negative thoughts. Try entertaining really positive thoughts instead, such as that only love is real and I am the expression of love in this world of form.  Just try these ideas on for size. At first they may seem outrageous.  With practice, they become more comfortable.  Eventually you will wonder why you believed otherwise for so many years.

If friends or family continually remind you of the old fears and angers, it is fine to tell them thanks, but you are not interested any more.  It is alright to say you have decided to be that which you would spread to others.  You figured out that anger and fear heal nothing, and only hurt the one who harbors them. In letting go of judgments about others, it may help to realize that we don’t often see the big picture, and we don’t really know what is best for others. We don’t even know when and how we were created.

Doubt the negatives in your life and in your mind.  If you cannot embrace a positive thought to replace a negative thought of emotion, at least doubt the negative.  This is a helpful technique that helped me turn around a lot of negative thinking and feeling.  Each time I found myself thinking negatively, I would doubt myself purposely.  I would think and say, “But perhaps I’m wrong about that”.  This is a way to intentionally confuse the negative part of yourself, which in turn weakens it severely.  Before, you were likely doubting the positive aspects of your life or yourself.  Start to doubt the negative aspects as well.

Stay in the present time.  As you explore letting go, it often helps to remember that “I am in the right place at the right time”.  This statement can help counteract one way that your mind keeps you in old beliefs and attitudes.  It does this by reminding you of something in your past that is familiar and reinforces your old beliefs and thoughts.  Realize that your past was perfect, but it is time to move on, let it go completely so that your future can come to you.

Do not compare yourself with others.  Comparing always leads to unhappiness.  You will learn that there will always be someone more beautiful, smarter, more successful, “happier”, etc.  Later, as you embrace your future completely, you will realize that comparing yourself with others, for the most part, is totally futile.  You are not that person, and your life should look quite different from that of others.  If it is a carbon copy of your neighbors, you are most likely not living your own life, but simply “keeping up with Jones family”, to use a common phrase.

Instead, try setting a new example.  Try to be one who inspires others.  Show up as you wish others to be.  Be a friend, rather than look for a friend.  Be a good partner, business person, student, etc.  It is a lot more fun and productive than comparing yourself or trying to make everyone and everything else conform to your desires.

Letting go also applies to the jaded fear-based and ego-based voices that often whisper in our ears, and serve only to confuse and hold us back. Identifying these false voices and learning to ignore them gets easier with practice.

Letting go may involve questioning every belief system you have ever been taught.  Ask yourself, does this belief fit the reality that I am loved by the Creator infinitely more than I can imagine?

Do not rebel for rebellion’s sake.  Rebelling is not at all the same as letting go of the past.  Rebellion is a very popular sport today that often wastes years of people’s lives. They think they are running toward their future, but are really just running away from their past.  Letting go does not just propel you in any other direction.  It is just a total and repeated emptying of the mind and the emotions so that something else can come in and show you your way.

If you find yourself rebelling, slow down and just allow yourself to question and allow the answers to be revealed.

Ask and you shall receive.  These simple words from the New Testament and Old Testament of the Bible are as true today as ever.  Many people want to let go, but they do not ask frequently enough.  Keep that in mind.  For example, many pray for friends, success, money, or health.  They should be praying to let go of the past, which is often the reason for their illness and seeming failures.



Excuses disempower you.  Really let this thought sink in deeply.  Excuses imply that you were a victim of circumstances and therefore you are powerless and not responsible for your actions.  They may make you seem more innocent, but really they just disempower you.

The opposite of making excuses is to take full responsibility for your life.  That is not a popular way to be today, but it is a valuable concept.  The main reason for taking responsibility is that it is so empowering.  It implies correctly that if things are a mess, you have the power to change them, whereas if you make excuses, the implication is you are a victim and not as able to change your life.  Life’s circumstances are our playground, not our master.

Try on the idea of taking full responsibility for everything in your life, even the negatives as you perceive them, such as alcoholic parents, mean partners, troublesome children, horrible diseases or other seeming misfortunes.  Taking full responsibility may seem daunting, but it is really not so at all.  It is a new way to live that prepares you for a wonderful and fulfilling future full of joy and love.  Please listen to this advice as it is perhaps the most important of this article.




Your present situation is the result of your past thoughts, attitudes and actions to a greater extent than you might imagine.  Really practicing and living the letting go philosophy each day will cause amazing life changes – sometimes very quickly.  All kinds of problems can improve, and life becomes much simpler and happier. Why is this so? Because the old thoughts and attitudes created the problems in the first place.  This is a most important principle.

Change your thoughts, habits and attitudes and over time your entire life will change.  The amazing changes that occur can be hard to believe.




Accept ALL of the love of the Creator for you into your life. Often this is the hardest thing in the world to do.  We are so used to striving and straining to get what we want that the idea of simply allowing and accepting seems difficult.

Allowing and accepting are really part of letting go.  You see, holding on to the past is like living on autopliot, even though most people think they are in control and “creating their future”.  Most are not.  They are simply living out their older beliefs and ideas in new forms.

Once you have set your intention to let go of your entire past, the next logical and related step is to relax and really allow and accept the new beliefs and principles into your life  This will happen automatically as you make room for them and search honestly.  This website you are viewing may help bring some of those new beliefs, ideas, and practices or lifestyle into your new life.


Grace is your birthright.  Expressed in religious terms, grace is yours, and it is not dependent on works.  It is undeserved and unearned.  It is like the sun that shines on everyone equally, regardless of their past thoughts and behavior.

Allowing and accepting may be unfamiliar words, and even less familiar ways of living. Yet living by grace works, often much better than the old way of struggle and striving.




Another aspect of letting go that is often overlooked is a decision that must accompany letting go.  It is toconsciously choose to be at peace within.  Since this is a bit complex, I want to explain it carefully.  First, let us examine this in more detail.  It means a deliberate choice to be at peace all of the time, not just when things are going well and life is fun.  Also, it means choosing for peace even if it hurts – and it will hurt at times.

For example, it can mean giving up the sweet feeling of revenge against friends and others who appear to slight you or harm you.  It can mean walking away from a situation in which you could choose to fight back.  Of course, sometimes fighting is the correct response, but it must be done from a place of peace within.  This is the key, and it is not an easy thing to understand.  Jesus of Nazareth called this idea “the peace that passeth all understanding”.  In other words, it must come from within.  It is not about gritting your teeth and walking away, or putting on a happy smile while you fume underneath.  One can fight a fair fight without anger and resentment.  That is the idea

Now let us discuss more about what choosing for peace within does not mean.  It does not mean denying your anger, fear or upset.  It means observing your feelings, expressing them when appropriate, and then letting them go.

It also does not mean being a doormat or avoiding confrontation.  It means learning how to communicate effectively and acting boldly, at times, but not from anger.  Mr. Roy Masters loves to say it is possible to be strong without being wrong, meaning angry.

It does not mean protesting all defense spending – a legitimate function of the federal government.

Nor does it mean to be a pacifist.  Sometimes an action of another demands a forceful response.  It means to be at peace inside yourself even if you are in a fight.  This attitude takes some time to cultivate, but is a wonderful way to live.

A phrase to practice is “I can be at peace with this” (no matter what ‘this’ is).  It is possible to be at peace even in the midst of chaos and war.  There are many stories of people who achieve this feat.  Of the finest, two that are somewhat familiar are the stories of George Washington and Abraham Lincoln in American history.  These men were surrounded by chaos, horror, intrigue, and very bad living conditions.  Yet they remained calm, and as a result inspired the nation.

Always recall that this kind of peace within, or your lack thereof, always affects those around you.  When you choose peace within, others see that they too have this choice.  This is a wonderful gift to your children and others around you. However, if you continue to be caught up in outer events and tied to your past traumas, anger and resentments, you will keep those around you somewhat caught up as well.  Keep this in mind, as it is a key to family peace and relationship success.  Be the model, in other words, rather than waiting for others to let go of their past and treat you as you wish to be treated.




Relationships will change drastically as you let go of your past.   This is inevitable and not to be feared.  Women, especially, have trouble in this area and this is unfortunate.  As you change, those around you must see you differently. Some will like what they see, but others will not.  A lot of courage is required in this area or you will not be willing to let go of the past.

This is a delicate area, I realize, especially in this day of easy divorce and little loyalty among many families and friends.  Divorce should always be weighed carefully.  Leaving friends or family can be an easy way out and a substitute for examining old, deep patterns of thought and behavior that lead to discord and disharmony.  While many friendships are not the best, our instant-gratification, throw-away culture is certainly not the answer, either.


Let go of those who dishonor you.  On the other hand, when “friends”, family members or partners dishonor you by dishonoring their contracts and agreements with you, be prepared to take vigorous action.  Otherwise you dishonor yourself.

Some people absolutely refuse to take responsibility for themselves and insist that you take responsibility for their happiness.  They may be absolutely committed to unhappiness or anger.  At these times, the most loving action may be to recall that all who love are joined at the level of the mind, but that physical separation is sometimes needed.

In other cases, another may not dishonor you, but you may realize that your focus or level of living is different from theirs.  It is not a judgment, just an observation.  Staying with them may mean you must stay at or near their level, which can cause depression and illness in a sensitive person.  With great compassion, you may realize you cannot maintain your integrity and keep living as another would wish, although it may seem perfectly fine to outsiders.  Each situation is different.  As with any important decision, ask for guidance and you will receive it.

One key is to recall that letting go of the past is first and foremost about emotionally and mentally letting go, not physically letting go.  It is about stopping your emotional investment in other people and things so that you can see clearly.  Then the right course of action will often become apparent to you without emotional overtones.




Letting go of unwanted things, habits, attitudes beliefs and even people is an ongoing process for anyone who wishes to unfold spiritually.  Allowing and accepting more of who you really are requires reflection, always involves some pain and suffering, and requires loads of compassion for oneself and everyone around you.  As much as possible, relax, enjoy it and celebrate the process as often as you can.  Know that letting go, which children are often better at doing, is the key to your growth and development throughout life.


Source: Dr Lawrence Wilson